+ oNe FiNe dAy +

It started with a very fine weather; cool strong breeze, blue sky with little specks of white clouds, everything fine on a fine day. But for an ordinary common girl at one corner of Earth, her world started with one of the worst storms in that year.

She tried, yes, she tried to overcome that storm, but it wasn't just a normal one. it was one that had been generating since the day she was born. but that day, on that one fine day, together with many other small sources of storms, it erupted into "The Perfect Storm". Ok, without that magnitude, but still as bad. Will Fate let her off? When she's losing grip on herself, who's going to save her?
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To any and everyone out there, on an ordinary day of yours, whether you dressed up or looked very sloppy, whether you combed your hair or wear wear contact lenses or not, just be yourself. Smile earnestly when you did, walk straight with confidence when you did. You never know when your presence can lift someone's spirits, even a stranger's, even when she's having one of the worst storms in her world.
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Thank you to that guy, whose presence had unwittingly extended his hand to pull the ordinary girl up from her storm, to really feel that one fine day. Though they don't know each other, he had really cheered the girl up, just by being himself. To her, he is the angel-in-disguise sent to save her in answer to her request in the morning. Perhaps that will be the only time she will ever see him, but he will always be remembered in her memories, how he had once helped to clear her stormy day. And she will always bless him with good wishes when she did. Thank you.

Thank you to that girl, whose presence had helped brighten that ordinary girl's day with her smiles. She is her close friend whom only see each other once in a while. But she never fails to brighten her day even when both of them were having bad hair days. Just her presence, her just being herself, is enough. She'll always be her much loved friend. Thank you.

Thank you to that other girl, who had willingly accompanied by the ordinary girl's side, throughout that day, from the storm at its darkest hour, to that truly one fine day. Of course, she also helped in that day's transformation. She didn't probe on the sources of the storm, just supporting her all the way. She willingly lent her discman to her when she needs it to listen to her favourite songs to calm her down. She listens to the songs with her though she wasn't very interested and though she needed to study for her quiz. Even when the girl used up twice her batteries in that time, she had no grumbles. She doesn't know if she knows how much she appreciated her gestures, but she really appreciate it. Thank you very much.

Angels are everywhere. In disguise.
The first one, the male angel, only appear once in her life with a mission to help her up from her darkest storm. And he completed that mission.
The second one, the female angel, always appear every now and then, to make sure the girl maintains her cheery mood and optimistic outlook in life, replenishin her energy and courage to face all adversities.
The third one, the female angel, is always by her side, supporting her in everything she does, no matter if her days start with bad weather or not, always makes sure that her days always end with one fine day.
And another girl, sometimes a bit dark, who called immediately after a short sms by the ordinary girl to offer her concern. She, is also an angel.

Thank you to all four of you for making her day.

And many others who are always there, waiting to lend a helping hand on other days of her storms, thank you in advance.

+ bAcKsTaB +

What does backstab mean actually? www.dictionary.com defines it as:
To attack (someone) unfairly, especially in an underhand, deceitful manner: “Some backstab each other and threaten to settle their differences with a punch”

Uh... so what does it mean?
To me, it means talking bad about people behind their backs with the intention of blackening their names. But what if you are doing exactly the same thing, but without that intention? Still a backstab right? haiz... what if you are just grumbling to someone? Like this....

Me: Grr... I'm so pissed!
Pal: Why? What happened?
Me: Aiyah! I have this friend loh.... so irritating one!
Pal: How come?
Me: You see? she.... blah blah blah...! So how can i not be angry??!!
Pal: Oh... who's that?
Me: Aiyah.. it's XXX loh!
Pal: Ooooo... Aiya just simmer down lah... she's like that one lo....
Me: Haiz....

Is the above considered as backstabbing?? I dunno... i'd always thought it's just grumbling... I mean of coz the best scenario is....

Me: Grr.. I'm so pissed!
Pal: Why? What happened?
Ma: Aiyah nothing... nevermind... not worth talking about...
Pal: Ok...

So this is the most moral way... but thing is, most likely i'll go crazy or just die in my own flames...
To me, backstabbing is something like this....

Me: Hey hey! I tell you something!
Pal: What?
Me: You know XXX? Wah kaoz! She's so blah blah blah one eh!
Pal: Oh really?!
Me: Yah! Can't tell right?
Pal: Yah... Never thought she's this kind of person...
Me: That's right! so next time you be careful ah! And you better warn all your friends too!
Pal: Definitely!

So how? this last scenario is one that i dont think i'd ever been in before... I mean i'd never tell tales about my friends like this before... though people have told me about others like this... actually to believe or not, it's up to the listener... i'm sure everyone has their own mind to decide if the one being talked bad about is really that bad or just adopt a sitting on the fence attitude... it's not like they will believe everything they are been told about...

A backstabbing only works when the listener chose to believe... so....
PS: no point is made... just a note only....

Anyway, can someone please tell me if the 1st scenario be considered a backstab?
Well... in my whole life, i guessed i may have UNINTENTIONALLY or INDIRECTLY backstabbed someone... i mean, even if without that intention, a backstab is still a backstab....

So, i hereby sincerely apologize to anyone and everyone whom i had unintentionally backstabbed, though i hope there is no one...
If i really did, you know i don't mean it...
Cheers!

+ S.N.A.G (Part 2) +

+ S.N.A.G (Part 2) +

Scenario 2: (SNAG & Gal on an outing)
(While walking)
SNAG: Eh.... Hee... when did you eat your breakfast today?
Gal: Huh? erm.... around 8am today bah... y?
SNAG: Oh nothing.... just that it's 1pm now.... wondering are you feeling a bit hungry? Hehe..
Gal: Oh.. yah... quite... Are you?
SNAG: A bit... Haha... Wanna go for lunch?
Gal: Okie! Where? What do you want to eat?
SNAG: I'm anything.. Anything you want to eat?
Gal: Uh? But i ask you first eh... I'm okay with anything..
SNAG: Nevermind lah... You choose...
Gal: Hmmm.... Wanna try that Chinese Ramen?
SNAG: Oh! I don't mind! Hahaha.... but i havent try that Jap restaurant before.... Long time din eat jap food already... Looks quite good... Heeezz...
Gal: Oh! Say earlier mah... Then we go try that Jap food loh!
SNAG(skeptic face) : Sure?
Gal: Yah lah! Let's go!

(After 10 mins, finally 10 more steps before reaching the doorstep of Jap restaurant.....)
SNAG: Hey you sure you want to eat Jap food?
Gal: Why not? You wanted to try mah... I also never try the food here before...
SNAG: Is it? But i thought you don't eat wasabi?
Gal: Yes i don't, but not all Jap food have wasabi right??!
SNAG: True... but.... hmm... the Shanghai Ramen looks good too.... You wanted to try that right?
Gal: Well... I said i have no preference already! So what do you want to eat? Can you please make up your mind?
SNAG: Hmmmm.... Ermmm..... I also don't know leh... Why don't you decide?
Gal: Grrr! I thought i already did! I said let's eat Jap food already!
SNAG: Are you sure? But you wanted to eat Shanghai Ramen right? But you chose Jap food to accomodate me right?
Gal: Goodness! You can stand here and think till the cows come home! I'm going home to eat Maggi Mee now! BYE!

Another quality of SNAGs.... Beating about the bush, too indecisive, and! always "hehe" and "haha" in every sentence that they say..... Like what's so funny??!!!

+ S.N.A.G (Part 1) +

+ S.N.A.G (Part 1) +

Sensitive New Age Guy. Who likes them? New Age Gals? Seems like many of my friends YEARN for this kinda guys... Really?? EEEYER! I'm definitely not one of them! Not when they are tooooooo sensitive!

Scenario 1: (thru sms)
Gal: Hey! Do you have XXX file? Can lend me? i need it quite urgently..
SNAG1: Sure sure!! Can can! of course!
Gal: Thankie! So we meet tomorrow? where? I'm free after 7pm...
(Gal lives in Bedok and SNAG lives in Changi)
SNAG1: of coz meet Bedok lah! U are gal mah!
Gal(-.-!!) : ok.. So where n when?
SNAG1: hmmm..... i'll inform you again tml?
Gal: sure.

(Next day during Gal's tutorial)
SNAG1: Hey...Hey... sorri sorri for late reply.... when are you free later?
Gal: shall reach bedok by 7pm...
SNAG1: Hmm... or i pass it to another gal then she pass to you tomorrow? ok ok?
Gal: Tomorrow? Why tomorrow?
SNAG1: Erm.... how about i go to your house at 8pm to pass to you?
Gal: !!! Y dont we meet at Bedok MRT at 8pm?
SNAG1: Or i email to you instead?
Gal: Sure. Thanks.
SNAG1: Okok! I'll sms you when i sent.

So, does everyone find this SNAG cute and nice and considerate? Love him?
YUCKs! Not me!! So irritating!!!!!!!! kaoz! Wasted so much sms for such an easy thing! Cant he have more opinion?

Ideal scenario:
Gal: Hey! Do you have XXX file? Can lend me? i need it quite urgently..
SNAG2: Sure! When do you need it?
Gal: Thanks! Tml can? Where do i meet you? I'm free after 7pm
SNAG2: Ok, meet somewhere in Bedok. Will inform you the time tml.
Gal: ok Thanks!

(Next day during Gal's tutorial)
SNAG2: Hey! i dont think i'll be free later to meet you. Shall i email it to you?
Gal: Sure thanks! Sorry to trouble you!
SNAG2: No prob! will sms you when i'd sent.

See? Short and Sweet and message delivered!
i dont know about others, but i find SNAG1 ultra irritating! so wishy washy! wasted so much precious time n sms simply because he's trying to BE NICE! Eh excuse me? not to that extent ok? if he's really busy, then just tell the gal straight! there's no need to drag here drag there wasting everyone's time! she can always look for other sources! and is there a need to go to the Gal's house late at night to deliver something which she needs? they can always meet outside! It isn't even convenient for a guy to turn up suddenly at a gal's house so late! think of her family! ok, i'm conservative, so what? She's not even close with that guy!
SNAG2 is so much better! straight to the point and still being nice! and with lotsa his opinions and initiative!

Grrr..... if all SNAGs are like SNAG1, fine. I'll rather fall for Bad Guys then! :P