In Life, there are many times when we cannot have the best of both worlds.
For instance:
I love heros.
I hate wars.
Heros are born out of wars.
So heros = wars.
=> no wars = no heros
So I'll never find someone i love.
So now what?
People say, Love should be stronger than Hate.
Ok. I can live with wars so long as i get my hero, coz i love my hero more than i hate wars.
Muahaahaha! What rubbish!
Now that's why i say, many a times, no one can have the best of both worlds.
In this case, I'll choose to have no war, and no hero.
I shall have no heros to love. But i have my family and friends, and all the people living in harmony in this whole wide world!
LONG LIVE WORLD PEACE!!!
Thursday, February 23, 2006
Wednesday, February 22, 2006
+ EnT|T|EmEnT +
There are certain things in life which some people are entitled to since their births. And which some other people can never attain in their lives.
Some one asked me for advice before. About a decision that could affect his life, at least for now. He had consulted others before. Those who encouraged him would list him one whole chunk of advantages. Those who discouraged, listed the opposite.
He came to me, still undecided.
I was silent for a long while. What he should know, he knew already. So I finally told him.
"If i were YOU in YOUR exact situation, I would go.
If i were ME in YOUR exact situation, I would not go.
Why? You know it very well yourself."
I can't believe i said this! This was like the best advice i can ever give to any one! And by doing so, i've expressing all my views and opinions and feelings already!
Simple and flat. No sides taken. I had made a smart advice. The rest was up to him.
Why have i told him thus? Because he possessed the entitlement. And i believed he knew it himself too. Because he didn't probe further. He's a smart kid.
Anyway, i believe he had made a smart choice. Well, as i'd said, he's smart.
Only those without the entitlement are qualified to give smart advice, because they have no entitlement to do otherwise.
Some one asked me for advice before. About a decision that could affect his life, at least for now. He had consulted others before. Those who encouraged him would list him one whole chunk of advantages. Those who discouraged, listed the opposite.
He came to me, still undecided.
I was silent for a long while. What he should know, he knew already. So I finally told him.
"If i were YOU in YOUR exact situation, I would go.
If i were ME in YOUR exact situation, I would not go.
Why? You know it very well yourself."
I can't believe i said this! This was like the best advice i can ever give to any one! And by doing so, i've expressing all my views and opinions and feelings already!
Simple and flat. No sides taken. I had made a smart advice. The rest was up to him.
Why have i told him thus? Because he possessed the entitlement. And i believed he knew it himself too. Because he didn't probe further. He's a smart kid.
Anyway, i believe he had made a smart choice. Well, as i'd said, he's smart.
Only those without the entitlement are qualified to give smart advice, because they have no entitlement to do otherwise.
Tuesday, February 21, 2006
+ A dAy g0nE bAd +
I shan't be sarcastic here and complain and grumble about how SOME PEOPLE spoil my day. When I'm pissed, I'm pissed. I'll directly say, someONE spoiled my day today. But in order to protect her, i shan't use her name. And you shan't guess either.
We were supposed to meet someone else at 130pm. But I was going to be late. She was already in that vincity of the meeting place. I called her up and we agreed on her continuing to meet him at the original time and me joining them at 2pm. I rushed like don't know what to get there at the appointed time, making me look like a mess along the way. And i did manage to reach there exactly at the time i said i would reach. 2pm.
Guess what? I barged into his room, all flustered and a mess, and i saw him. And him only. With an extremely pissed off face.
He: Yes?
Me: Erm.. She has not reached yet? Or has she left already?
He: She said to change the time to 230pm. She said you can only reach at 230pm.
Me: Oh she did? Or shall I start first?
He: No no. I'm not free now, I'm not always free you know? And both of you should come together. You shall come at 230pm.
Me: Oh.. Ok sorry. I'll come at a later time then.
I was thus rejected from his room. The moment i stepped out of his office, i called her up, feeling quite ridiculous and foolish. Turned out she was still preparing her stuffs. I told her about what happened to me. She laughed. Laughed! Not a single trace of empathy!
Okay. I'm not a petty person. It was my fault I'm late. Even if he wanted us to see him together, we can both see him at 2pm when i reached! Okay, so she was worried that i cant make it on time at 2pm, and so she fixed the time at 230pm. Perfectly fine.
But as a friend, she didn't even show the slightest empathy and sensitivity with me when i told her i was being chased out, and it's due to a mistake that SHE, intentionally or unintentionally, made. Instead, she LAUGHED it off as if it was a big joke. May I know what is so funny about a friend being made a fool?
Okay, friends aside. Even without friendship, just as a colleague, didn't she have the SLIGHTEST courtesy to at least inform me that she had changed the time? Yes, half an hour is no big deal! But if i was informed, I wouldn't have barged into someone's room making a fool out of myself! If i was informed, I could have gotten my lunch before the meeting at 2pm and not 2 hours later at 4pm!
"Money makes the world go round. Hunger makes ME go MAD!"
If she had simply said,"Oops! Sorry I forgot to inform you that i changed the time."(basic manners), my day would still be as good. But no. She LAUGHED! that's the worst part. What a sadist! She enjoyed seeing me in distress?!
By the time i knew, I didn't have enough time to grab something properly. I spent the next 15 mins walking around the area, trying to make myself cool down, and sitting in front of somewhere looking like a complete idiot!
At 230pm, no sight of her. 235pm, no trace. I called her at 240pm. She told me she's still tidying up her stuffs and would be done in 5-10 mins, and asked me to see him first. Ok. So if i didn't call her, i would still be waiting and the both of us would be late again. And it'll be my fault, because it was me who was late in the first place and she was already there.
To put it across nicely, she was just being irresponsible of not informing me that she changed the time, nor that she would be late for the meeting at 230pm.
To put it out harshly, one can say she used me as a shield to postpone the time when she was the one who needed the time to complete her stuffs and made me the scapegoat.
Well, i gave her the benefit of doubt.
But i was still hungry. I pulled a LONG face throughout the whole meeting. No point putting on a facade. That's being hypocritical.
Funny thing was, 4 hours later at 615pm, she sms-ed me.
She: hey girl sorry i forgot to inform you about coming later today.
(I'd already forgotten the matter, but i decided to let her know of my displeasure)
Me: Wah.. Not bad sia.. you actually took 4 hours to realise you're sorry? ok. Apology accepted.
( I thought that was the end of the episode. Until i recieved another sms from her)
She: Huh? It wasnt on purpose ma. And like you never did anything bad to me before.. anything
??!!!???!!!???!!
What was that suppose to mean? So i guess she wasn't serious when she said sorry? I'm not even reprimanding her loh! She can save that 'sorry'.
And what did she mean with the 2nd part of her msg? So me doing anything bad to her in the past would deny her the fact that she did something bad to me?! So I'd have lost all rights to feel angry? And what have i done to her? Have i harmed her in any way? Even if i had displeased her in the past, I would have said sorry to her immediately and i had meant it, even if she had not deserved it! But the fact is, I'm pissed with her today solely because of what she had done today! I was not even taking into consideration her faults in the past! And now she's trying to dig the past out so that she can escape her present guilt?
This is just a miscommunication. It's not as if she really did anything bad to me. I wasn't even scolding her! Does she need to be so defensive?
It's totally out of point! Does she even know what i was pissed with her about? Faint.
To this girl:
If you happen to see this entry, and you felt greatly disturbed and maligned, feel free to call me up and we can clarify the matter once and for all. This is actually a small matter and I have no wish to start a war. I'm not trying to criticise you on my blog. I'm just relating my day on it.
We were supposed to meet someone else at 130pm. But I was going to be late. She was already in that vincity of the meeting place. I called her up and we agreed on her continuing to meet him at the original time and me joining them at 2pm. I rushed like don't know what to get there at the appointed time, making me look like a mess along the way. And i did manage to reach there exactly at the time i said i would reach. 2pm.
Guess what? I barged into his room, all flustered and a mess, and i saw him. And him only. With an extremely pissed off face.
He: Yes?
Me: Erm.. She has not reached yet? Or has she left already?
He: She said to change the time to 230pm. She said you can only reach at 230pm.
Me: Oh she did? Or shall I start first?
He: No no. I'm not free now, I'm not always free you know? And both of you should come together. You shall come at 230pm.
Me: Oh.. Ok sorry. I'll come at a later time then.
I was thus rejected from his room. The moment i stepped out of his office, i called her up, feeling quite ridiculous and foolish. Turned out she was still preparing her stuffs. I told her about what happened to me. She laughed. Laughed! Not a single trace of empathy!
Okay. I'm not a petty person. It was my fault I'm late. Even if he wanted us to see him together, we can both see him at 2pm when i reached! Okay, so she was worried that i cant make it on time at 2pm, and so she fixed the time at 230pm. Perfectly fine.
But as a friend, she didn't even show the slightest empathy and sensitivity with me when i told her i was being chased out, and it's due to a mistake that SHE, intentionally or unintentionally, made. Instead, she LAUGHED it off as if it was a big joke. May I know what is so funny about a friend being made a fool?
Okay, friends aside. Even without friendship, just as a colleague, didn't she have the SLIGHTEST courtesy to at least inform me that she had changed the time? Yes, half an hour is no big deal! But if i was informed, I wouldn't have barged into someone's room making a fool out of myself! If i was informed, I could have gotten my lunch before the meeting at 2pm and not 2 hours later at 4pm!
"Money makes the world go round. Hunger makes ME go MAD!"
If she had simply said,"Oops! Sorry I forgot to inform you that i changed the time."(basic manners), my day would still be as good. But no. She LAUGHED! that's the worst part. What a sadist! She enjoyed seeing me in distress?!
By the time i knew, I didn't have enough time to grab something properly. I spent the next 15 mins walking around the area, trying to make myself cool down, and sitting in front of somewhere looking like a complete idiot!
At 230pm, no sight of her. 235pm, no trace. I called her at 240pm. She told me she's still tidying up her stuffs and would be done in 5-10 mins, and asked me to see him first. Ok. So if i didn't call her, i would still be waiting and the both of us would be late again. And it'll be my fault, because it was me who was late in the first place and she was already there.
To put it across nicely, she was just being irresponsible of not informing me that she changed the time, nor that she would be late for the meeting at 230pm.
To put it out harshly, one can say she used me as a shield to postpone the time when she was the one who needed the time to complete her stuffs and made me the scapegoat.
Well, i gave her the benefit of doubt.
But i was still hungry. I pulled a LONG face throughout the whole meeting. No point putting on a facade. That's being hypocritical.
Funny thing was, 4 hours later at 615pm, she sms-ed me.
She: hey girl sorry i forgot to inform you about coming later today.
(I'd already forgotten the matter, but i decided to let her know of my displeasure)
Me: Wah.. Not bad sia.. you actually took 4 hours to realise you're sorry? ok. Apology accepted.
( I thought that was the end of the episode. Until i recieved another sms from her)
She: Huh? It wasnt on purpose ma. And like you never did anything bad to me before.. anything
??!!!???!!!???!!
What was that suppose to mean? So i guess she wasn't serious when she said sorry? I'm not even reprimanding her loh! She can save that 'sorry'.
And what did she mean with the 2nd part of her msg? So me doing anything bad to her in the past would deny her the fact that she did something bad to me?! So I'd have lost all rights to feel angry? And what have i done to her? Have i harmed her in any way? Even if i had displeased her in the past, I would have said sorry to her immediately and i had meant it, even if she had not deserved it! But the fact is, I'm pissed with her today solely because of what she had done today! I was not even taking into consideration her faults in the past! And now she's trying to dig the past out so that she can escape her present guilt?
This is just a miscommunication. It's not as if she really did anything bad to me. I wasn't even scolding her! Does she need to be so defensive?
It's totally out of point! Does she even know what i was pissed with her about? Faint.
To this girl:
If you happen to see this entry, and you felt greatly disturbed and maligned, feel free to call me up and we can clarify the matter once and for all. This is actually a small matter and I have no wish to start a war. I'm not trying to criticise you on my blog. I'm just relating my day on it.
Thursday, February 16, 2006
* tHe TRUE c|nDeRe||a sToRy +
Once upon a time, there was a girl called Cinderella. Why was her name Cinderella? That's because she was always cleaning up and doing the dusty work(not because of the fireplace) that smeared her face and hands with dirt. As she was always so dirty, thus her name.
The legend had always been that she had a step mother and 2 step sisters who ill-treated her after her father died. But the truth was, those were her biological mother and sisters. It was just that Cinderella, or rather the person who wrote her story(is it Andersen or Charles?), just couldnt figure out and accept why and how a mother could show such extreme favouritism among her 3 biological daughters. Thus putting them as step mother and sisters was a much simpler plot.
Well, I had no idea why too!
Anyway, poor Cinderella was indeed treated very badly. But Cinderella dreamt of being financially independent one day, so that she could finally escape from their cluthes and ill-treatment one day. She would always go for part time jobs, and she got to save her money because she was entitled to it.
However, that was not easy, because her step-mother certainty did not wish for the loss of such a good and free maid. With Cinderella around, her house would always be clean and neat, and for free! Well, perhaps just for 3 meals and a bed! Hence she always came up with lots of ways to prevent Cinderella from doing part time jobs.
One day, the Prince was setting up a ball, and Cinderella's family was invited! Everyone was so happy about it, especially Cinderella. As the ball was a very big event, many helpers were needed. And this was certainly a great chance for Cinderella to earn big money! Because the Royal family was always very generous with the wages! And just imagine the juicy tips they could receive from the guests?
But the step-mother would not allow this. She didn't want Cinderella to go to the ball, as a guest or as a waitress, all reasons to her own advantages. Hence she purposely made things hard for her, and scattered all the beans and what all over the floor or something, and kept all the brooms to keep her too busy to go to the ball. She was to sort all the beans into their colours or something. And they left happily, leaving Cinderella fuming at home.
Problem was, Cinderella was not stupid! All she needed was a vacumn cleaner! Who needed a broom when a vacumn cleaner could do a much better and faster job? Crazy! And about the sorting of the beans, that's even crazier! She just threw all the beans vacumned away and opened new packets of different beans and poured them into different bowls according to their colours! Spend the precious time picking the beans one by one, or sifting them with a sift, or asking the birds for help? Madness!
Anyway, Cinderella was done with her 'tasks' in an hour. Smartly dressed and such. No gowns to wear? Fear not! Who need to wear gowns to work as waitress? Zzzz
No fairy god-mother, no glass slippers, no mice and no pumpkin, she wore her old sneakers and caught a cab to the ball.
Somehow, while working, she met the Prince and he fell in love with her. But before he could know her name, the clock struck 1145pm! Cinderella had to rush to collect her pay and dash off to catch the cab because if not, she needed to pay the double midnight charges! And she would waste a bit of her well-earned salary! Ok, maybe she's a bit stingy, but all for a greater cause!
Nonetheless, she dropped one of her sneakers in the ballroom when running out, and the Prince picked it up, knowing that Cinderella would certainly come back for it. ( of course! Since she was so stingy even to pay for the midnight charge!)
True enough, Cinderella came back the next day for it, and the Prince used the opportunity to confess to her. But the problem was, she had fallen in love with the cook instead! Though Cinderella wanted to earn money to retrieve her freedom, she still didn't want to marry the Prince just for the sake of money. Hence, she rejected him.
And well, she really got married to the cook and got her own home and freedom.
YAh I know the writer wrote that the Prince went through hard times to find Cinderella with one of her glass slippers and when he did, she married him and they lived happily ever after. But it was because the writer thought it was SO DUMB of Cinderella to reject a Prince with so much heritage for a stupid cook. Hence he altered the ending for the fantasy.
Well, but true enough, Cinderella chose love over money, but she still didn't live happily ever after. The stupid cook turned out to be real stupid, who seemed to belong to a different league from hers. But since she married him, she was stuck with him all her life. But another problem was, she retained the ill-treated and inferior feeling as when she lived with her mother and sisters. She was never truly freed from her traumatic experiences. She believed that she had came a long way to her status now, and it was how she was treated that time that made her how she was now. She believed she grew and became stronger in her mind because of that.
Hence, she treated her daugther the same way her mother treated herself.
The true Cinderella story, is actually a tragedy.
The legend had always been that she had a step mother and 2 step sisters who ill-treated her after her father died. But the truth was, those were her biological mother and sisters. It was just that Cinderella, or rather the person who wrote her story(is it Andersen or Charles?), just couldnt figure out and accept why and how a mother could show such extreme favouritism among her 3 biological daughters. Thus putting them as step mother and sisters was a much simpler plot.
Well, I had no idea why too!
Anyway, poor Cinderella was indeed treated very badly. But Cinderella dreamt of being financially independent one day, so that she could finally escape from their cluthes and ill-treatment one day. She would always go for part time jobs, and she got to save her money because she was entitled to it.
However, that was not easy, because her step-mother certainty did not wish for the loss of such a good and free maid. With Cinderella around, her house would always be clean and neat, and for free! Well, perhaps just for 3 meals and a bed! Hence she always came up with lots of ways to prevent Cinderella from doing part time jobs.
One day, the Prince was setting up a ball, and Cinderella's family was invited! Everyone was so happy about it, especially Cinderella. As the ball was a very big event, many helpers were needed. And this was certainly a great chance for Cinderella to earn big money! Because the Royal family was always very generous with the wages! And just imagine the juicy tips they could receive from the guests?
But the step-mother would not allow this. She didn't want Cinderella to go to the ball, as a guest or as a waitress, all reasons to her own advantages. Hence she purposely made things hard for her, and scattered all the beans and what all over the floor or something, and kept all the brooms to keep her too busy to go to the ball. She was to sort all the beans into their colours or something. And they left happily, leaving Cinderella fuming at home.
Problem was, Cinderella was not stupid! All she needed was a vacumn cleaner! Who needed a broom when a vacumn cleaner could do a much better and faster job? Crazy! And about the sorting of the beans, that's even crazier! She just threw all the beans vacumned away and opened new packets of different beans and poured them into different bowls according to their colours! Spend the precious time picking the beans one by one, or sifting them with a sift, or asking the birds for help? Madness!
Anyway, Cinderella was done with her 'tasks' in an hour. Smartly dressed and such. No gowns to wear? Fear not! Who need to wear gowns to work as waitress? Zzzz
No fairy god-mother, no glass slippers, no mice and no pumpkin, she wore her old sneakers and caught a cab to the ball.
Somehow, while working, she met the Prince and he fell in love with her. But before he could know her name, the clock struck 1145pm! Cinderella had to rush to collect her pay and dash off to catch the cab because if not, she needed to pay the double midnight charges! And she would waste a bit of her well-earned salary! Ok, maybe she's a bit stingy, but all for a greater cause!
Nonetheless, she dropped one of her sneakers in the ballroom when running out, and the Prince picked it up, knowing that Cinderella would certainly come back for it. ( of course! Since she was so stingy even to pay for the midnight charge!)
True enough, Cinderella came back the next day for it, and the Prince used the opportunity to confess to her. But the problem was, she had fallen in love with the cook instead! Though Cinderella wanted to earn money to retrieve her freedom, she still didn't want to marry the Prince just for the sake of money. Hence, she rejected him.
And well, she really got married to the cook and got her own home and freedom.
YAh I know the writer wrote that the Prince went through hard times to find Cinderella with one of her glass slippers and when he did, she married him and they lived happily ever after. But it was because the writer thought it was SO DUMB of Cinderella to reject a Prince with so much heritage for a stupid cook. Hence he altered the ending for the fantasy.
Well, but true enough, Cinderella chose love over money, but she still didn't live happily ever after. The stupid cook turned out to be real stupid, who seemed to belong to a different league from hers. But since she married him, she was stuck with him all her life. But another problem was, she retained the ill-treated and inferior feeling as when she lived with her mother and sisters. She was never truly freed from her traumatic experiences. She believed that she had came a long way to her status now, and it was how she was treated that time that made her how she was now. She believed she grew and became stronger in her mind because of that.
Hence, she treated her daugther the same way her mother treated herself.
The true Cinderella story, is actually a tragedy.
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